Is your marriage stuck in the same old pattern? Things are boring and nothing much changes? You seem to be drifting nowhere in particular?
Too often we get stuck in a pattern of arguing and retreating and escaping to our media gizmos. This is much simpler than working on our issues. But you know where this leads…general dissatisfaction which may allow more severe disruption into your comfortable existence. Complacency will kill a happy marriage.
It’s time to face what’s going on and fix it.
How can you bring back a heart connection with your partner, start to communicate again and resolve some of your marriage issues?
Here are five steps to fixing your marriage problems
Use these ideas for creating meaningful connections with your loved one.
Create some short, simple rituals
One ritual could be as simple as giving a long hug before each person leaves for work. Sending a quick text about midday to see how each person’s day is going or sharing a heartfelt ‘I love you’ at night before falling asleep. A little romance goes a long way to creating a happy marriage.
Schedule unplugged family dinners together.
Sure you both might work late and have many commitments in the evening but try to schedule a few dinners at home each week. Make this a time to relax and have fun together. Most of all, turn off the TV, ipad and phone and let this time be a catalyst for all kinds of adventures and new ways to be together.
Use this time to share about your day… what happened and your thoughts and feelings. Try for the positive ones.
Plan date nights
Schedule an evening once a month for an extra special date night out. Try to make it unusual or somewhere you haven’t been before. It can be for a fancy meal but there are lots of inexpensive ideas as well. How about Chinese and bowling, takeaway and stargazing, a visit to an art museum or a concert.
You’ll need to sync up your calendars each month and schedule in this time like every other commitment. It’s worth it as it sends the message that your priority is a happy marriage.
Get creative with family trips
Taking yearly extended family vacations ensures quality time together, but these aren’t always possible, so think outside the square. Plan a series of day trips to unusual spots. They can be near or far. Take turns in planning a ‘secret’ destination and surprise your loved one with the destination when you arrive at the airport.
Create a marriage vision board
This is a great way for you both to express and share your dreams and desires. You each need to brainstorm and choose three words and some corresponding images from magazines or the internet that represent the kind of year that you or your partner would like to have. Paste or tape all the words and images on a large piece of paper for display and then use them as visual guides to focus your thoughts. Good things happen when thoughts are focussed.
These simple ideas will help you create a more connected and loving partnership. Just start with one step at a time and a lot of acceptance and watch your marriage issues start to dissolve.