Sadly, many couples today end up with broken marriages, due simply to small misunderstandings and what they consider to be irreconcilable differences.
However, there are many couples who seem to be able to maintain a lasting relationship.
So, whats their secret?
Are you a happy couple?
Is your marriage worth preserving?
Here is an eight point checklist for you to work on.
These are simple things you can do to make sure you have a happy and long lasting relationship:
1) Share and Develop Common Interests
In the early years of marriage you share similar interests and desires. This is what brought you together. The challenge is maintaining shared interests for many years to come. Happy couples see to it that they always find ways to share common interests.
If this bond is not present in your relationship, develop it.
2) Sleep in One Bed
Yes, happy couples sleep happily together in one bed.
There may come a time when your relationship is under threat but leaving the master bed is not a good move. To have a long lasting relationship, contented partners never fail to let each other know that they still want the other to be at their side when they wake up.
3) Always Let Trust Lead the Way
You know what separates a lot of couples? It’s a lack of trust in the other.
By the time a partner begins to doubt and distrust the other, the relationship is in trouble. For happy couples, trust is the epitome of satisfaction in the relationship. They let each other do their own thing and trust each other to do the right thing.
4) See the Right – Ignore the Wrong
Happy couples emphasize the importance of looking for the positive in their daily interactions. If one of you makes a mistake, learn from it, talk about it, think about how to fix it and move on. Appreciate all the little right things you do for each other.
5) Greet Each Other
The simplest things in the relationship are the ones responsible for making it last.
For instance, individuals who are happy and contented with their partner never forget to greet their partners:
A good morning hug for each day waking up, a “Bye Honey” as you leave and the classic “Honey I’m Home” on return. And a good night hug and kiss before going to bed.
Greetings and appreciations may be sweet nothings, but they carry a lot of weight in a long lasting relationship.
6) Take Pride in Each Other
Remember when you couldn’t stop talking about your partner in front of your family and friends?
Happily married couples are and will always be proud of their partners. Your wife can be admired for beauty, grace, family responsibilities, mother hood and organisational abilities. Your husband for his practical good sense, work ethic and humour. Admiration and appreciation will help ensure a lifetime partnership.
7) Find the Good in Each Others Differences
You may find yourselves fighting over your differences. But differences are what brought you together. Often we seek in others qualities that will complement our own. So an organised wife can keep a disorganised husband focussed. A practical husband can reign in a wife’s profligacies. One may work from the heart and the other from the head…great combination. If you are both self aware you will see that the positive side of your differences makes your relationship work better.
8) Constant Communication
The key to unlock the secrets of a long happy relationship is on-going and consistent communication between you both. Happy couples will never tire of talking to each other in order to build a long lasting relationship.
Communication between a happy couple is comprised of appreciation, greetings, arguments, laughter, and sharing of problems, sentiments and emotions. It is the perfect recipe and the most crucial reason why happy couples will likely end up being with each other for their entire lifetimes.