Have you had a breakup recently? Are you a little confused about your feelings?
Are you unsure if you even want your boyfriend back or not?
Break ups in any relationship are common. Even after you marry, your relationship is not guaranteed. Right now an average of 50% of all marriages end in divorce in the western world. Is this relationship instability how it has to be?
There are many factors to consider and each situation is unique.
If this is one of your first relationships, these are often practice runs for the real thing and if you have recently split with your partner here are some tips for you.
Don’t for a moment think it is the end of the world.
Every relationship you have will teach you things you must know about yourself and your partner.
Knowing yourself is an education process that takes time and practical lessons and strengthens you for the real relationship that is to come.
Humans all have their own unique energy and vibration and what attracts you to a particular person can repel another. Look around you at all the unusual relationships, the differering personalities and the variety and diversity of physical appearance and you will realize there are no simple explanations to human attraction.
So if you have a breakup with your boyfriend you have 2 choices;
Get your boyfriend back, or part and move on to new and unknown adventures.
Firstly, you have to decide if you even really want to get your boyfriend back.
Relationships have 3 phases…positive, neutral and negative.
Make a list of all the good things you feel about him and how happy you are with him.
Then a list of the things that cause you unhappiness. Neutral sort of falls in between.
So it could be
|He is always excited to see me||He is unreasonably jealous|
|He is very considerate of my needs||He spends a lot of time with his friends|
|He is very protective of me||He has a quick temper|
|I feel happy when we are together||He can be argumentative|
And so on
Then ask yourself, “Is this a relationship that will be long lasting or has reached it’s end?”
Then look at why you have parted.
What caused the split. Some thing he did or you did or a silly difference of opinion that blew out of proportion.
If you were the cause, the way back is to open lines of communication. Sometimes a simple apology will break the ice. You may feel it wasn’t all your fault. Eating humble pie may be the answer but don’t become too needy. Keep some dignity . Males like to chase.
If the split was initiated by him, then you still can talk to him.
Ask him why he broke up. It may be he has misinterpreted something you did. See if it’s something you can fix.
Maybe he just isn’t ready to commit and wants to be “friends” for now.
He may have made a list also and decided that he needed to explore other offers.
While this may be hard to hear, sometimes it is for the best. Some men just take longer to be ready to settle down and you have to accept this.
Maybe by taking a break from him you will both be able to judge where your relationship was.
Keeping communication lines open would be advisable.
If it is time to part and you don’t get your boyfriend back, move on, don’t mope.
Realize this is just a journey for you and everything is as it is meant to be.
Here are some ideas to help you move on with a smile.
Get out and be open to new adventures .
This break up could be a blessing in disguise.