Have you heard the story of the two monks?
The older monk looked at him with compassion. “Brother, I set the woman down on the other side of the river. You have been carrying her ever since.”
Releasing this heavy negative energy is quite simple. And you can do it with gratitude and forgiveness.
Try this daily practice:
1. During meditation, or when you’re busy with a mindless task like laundry or dishes, think of a someone you love and silently say, “I love you.”
Next, give thanks. Thank that person for being part of your life. Be specific and think of all the good things that person has brought to your life.
2. Think about people that are a positive part of your life and how much better your life is because of them.There may be folk that have entered your life through a brief moment of kindness. Thank them.
3. Next, think about the people who cause you irritation.
Think about someone who causes you to become upset when they enter your thoughts. This may be a recent hurt from a relationship.
At this point of the exercise, think deeply.
Consider the fact that these people bring something to your life even though your encounters with them leave you with unpleasant memories.
Dig deeper and think about how you have changed as a person because of them. All our interactions with others help us to grow as individuals.
If any of these people wronged you, or harmed you, forgive them.
You don’t have to condone their behavior.
Just release the anger or hurt you are carrying by being compassionate to the fact that their actions came from a place of pain within themselves.
4. Now consider yourself.
If you have wronged someone, and which of us is blameless, forgive yourself for acting out the pain in your own heart. Focus on letting go of hurt.
This exercise of forgiveness can be done whenever you feel anger or irritation.
Keep going with these thoughts until you feel a loving, peaceful feeling come over you.
Forgiveness is an act of cleansing.
All of us at one time or another have done things based on our own inner pain and as we forgive others, we can also forgive ourselves.
We can never undo what has been done but we certainly don’t need to carry this intrusive baggage around with us to clutter future relationships.